Beca, 30, lives in Atlanta and says she "tried and failed at Tinder forever." For her, the choosiness with which Coffee Meets Bagel forces you to approach dating is actually the draw. "The limited amount of daily swipes made me more thoughtful and deliberate with the app," she says. "I much prefer it to apps like Tinder—where you can swipe matches while your friend is in the bar bathroom—when it comes to looking for long-term partners. You have to be much more intentional." She met her now-boyfriend on Coffee Meets Bagel.
Thirdly, confidence is big. Take pride in what you do well, own up to your flaws and acknowledge when you have done something wrong, but don’t apologize for who you are. Canadian online dating has been around for a while and is widely accepted, even cool, so saying things like “we can lie about where we met” will put people off. It’s not a very confident thing to say.