Before there were dating apps, there was OkCupid. What started as a traditional online dating site you could only access on your computer has evolved into an app equipped with traditional swiping and messaging functions you'd come to expect in a dating app. It's also coupled with a more robust written profile that allows users to state things such as interests, what they can't live without and what a typical Friday night looks like to give potential matches a better feel of the person they're chatting with. What makes the dating app especially great for finding hookups is the search functionality, hands down. While apps like Tinder and Bumble only allow you to filter by location and age, OkCupid lets you search using keywords found on profiles. In other words, you can see who's looking for something casual, or type in phrases like "not looking for anything serious." If you're kinky, you can also sort matches using your fetish of choice, all while keeping your location and age parameters intact. This is one of the app store's most popular dating apps for a reason.
Bumble was founded by Whitney Wolfe, a woman whose goal was to make dating (and now, even networking and friendship) more female-friendly. How that manifests on the app, for the uninitiated, is a Sadie Hawkins-esque interface that requires women to message their male matches first. Then men have 24 hours to respond or else the match is erased. (For women messaging other women and women-identified folks, either party can respond first.) Although this ostensibly puts the power into women’s hands, it’s also the biggest complaint I heard about Bumble while researching this piece, calling it “annoying” and “overwhelming” (and the reason a few dating-haters I spoke to defected to Tinder). But lots of respect to any app that's actually trying to make women feel safer online, and Bumble has made that its priority.
On the upside the profiles are brief, which allows you to make decisions quickly. The downside is that short profiles make it harder to figure out what people are looking for. Knowing very little about a person can also make initial messaging more challenging. You'll need to wade through a sea of profiles, which makes it easy to pass over people you might have given a chance under different circumstances.
Made for the modern dater, Flirt.com is an easy-to-sign-up and easy-to-use platform for meeting singles aged anywhere from “18-78.” Accounts only take a few minutes to create and new members can start browsing immediately based on basic search settings (sex, age bracket, location). The site is both minimalistic in its layout and methods for matching, but effective if you’re looking for something casual and low-commitment. Plus, the member ratio of men to women is fairly well balanced, which means the odds of finding a date are good.
Thirdly, confidence is big. Take pride in what you do well, own up to your flaws and acknowledge when you have done something wrong, but don’t apologize for who you are. Canadian online dating has been around for a while and is widely accepted, even cool, so saying things like “we can lie about where we met” will put people off. It’s not a very confident thing to say.